My nightmare begins on June 7, 1998 when my
then wife had me served with divorce papers.
I knew it was coming because we had been to
counseling and the councilor told my wife that she was so far of the unreasonable
scale that it could not be measured, we never went back again.
After that it began, with the help of some
friends, my wife tried to have me removed from the house by calling the police
on me. The very first time she was completely drunk and had to go to the
neighbors to make the call. The neighbors were so concerned about her
intoxication level that they took her car keys away from her and gave them to
me. The police came and told her she could sleep it off either at home or in
jail, but if they found out that she was going to try to drive, again they
would bust her for DUI.
This first call set the ball in motion.
Because it was a domestic disturbance call, Women in Distress began calling my
house, if I answered they would hang up. This went on for about a month since
my wife was not at home, it was just me and our year old son. I guess that WID
finally made contact with her since one day I went to the store for diapers
(leaving our son with his mother) and when I got back they were gone. It was one
month before I saw my son again. Women in Distress had effectively hidden him
from me while helping my wife to file a restraining order against me. The order
was denied by the Judge (the only good thing she did) and then dropped by my
wife before the fifteen day trial. After Women in Distress hid my son for a
month leaving my wife to care for him full time, (something she had never done
for more that a few hours), she brought him home. I gave my wife 3000 dollars
so she could move out , get established without having to go into her bank
account. We then agreed to a 50/50 split. This split work pretty good since I
worked from home and she was a teacher, however this would change. I still do
not know what the motivation was/is but after 1.5 years of marriage she wanted
to take it all from me, as she had stated before.
To make a long story short, that is just what
happened. She had her opposing council pay off my attorney, the custody
investigator put taps on my phone line, break into my house and steal documents
and other things. To date our judge has ordered my three year old into school
full time, he use to stay at home with me and his cousins, she has ordered me
to sell my house (I owned 11 years. Prior to marriage), ordered 31 grand out of
my 401k (stared 18 prior to marriage), set my child support to be 2/3 of my
take-home pay, and ordered my x-wife and I to see, and for me to pay at the
rate of 250 an hour, a parenting coordinator that happens to donate heavily to
the judges re-election campaign.
It still goes on with the x-wife keeping our
son away from his family and demanding more money.
Somebody pinch me as I wish to wake now!